A family of support groups for people who have been affected by alcoholism in their family is Al-Anon. The aim of these groups is to be recuperative and curative.
Al- Anon is a support organization for the friends and family members of problem drinkers, founded in 1951. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is the first alcoholic support group that was started by the husband of Lois Wilson who went on to later start her own support group, Al-Anon. Lois W sort to help others suffering at the hands of alcoholics like herself. Al-Anon is an organization which supports itself through donations provided by members. There are meetings available through the assistance of family members and friends of alcoholics to cope with and better serve the interests of their loved ones even if they are in different stages of recovery.
Alcoholism Affecting The Whole Family
Al-Anon sees alcoholism as a family illness, because it negatively affects both the drinkers and people around them. The recovery process is a joint effort and the family members and other people close to the addict must be involved.
Sometimes alcoholics' family members blame themselves for their loved one's' drinking habits; they also may not fully understand why recovery should be their relative's priority. The Al-Anon group meetings help bring these issues to light and teach members how to deal with alcoholism as it affects the whole family.
Alateen- Al-Anon Meetings Intended For Teenagers
Besides, Al-Anon has a group named Alateen organized specially for young people whose family member suffers from alcoholism.
Young people are permitted to meet with others of their own age at these meetings, making the experiences more similar and advantageous.
Al-Anon Group Advantages
Alcoholism has affected many people directly and indirectly and you will meet these people in this program. The best part about this program is that you can all relate with the same issue. The main advantage of Al-Anon is searching people who have had similar experiences to talk to. There are Al-Anon meetings all across the nation. Phone us on 0800 246 1509 , and we'll help you find the one near you.
The Results Of These Meetings
For anyone who is affected by someone else's drinking, Al- Anon meetings are for those. If you are worried about somebody's heavy drinking or if the drunkard's lifestyle somehow affects your life , Al-Anon will help you.
The outcomes of these meetings is what scares some people from coming. When thinking of attending a meeting, some things should be kept in mind
- Al-Anon is a group that is unidentified
- Everyone in that room is affected one way or another by the alcoholism of a friend or family member
- No One is made to speak about their problem or discuss it, just encouraged to
- Meetings Offered Can Vary
- There are meetings where you may not be helped but someone else might be.
- Al-Anon is not based on any religion
- Al-Anon meetings follow the 12 Step program
Going to the meeting means that you accept the fact that there are matters discussed that will be of help to you or not. Based on this formula the meetings concentrate on the sharing of experiences and the hardships of the attendees rather than giving them any instructions about what they should do.
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Al-Anon 12 Steps
As a rule, group meetings begin with reading of Al Anon 12 Step program. Adapted, from the 12 Step program of Alcoholics Anonymous, these steps are nearly straight sword. Similarly to AA, Al-Anon members rely on a facilitator who guides them through the steps and who is always ready to support when the going gets tough. These steps are the following
- We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
- Al-Anon members are taught that alcoholism is a disease they cannot cure in another person.
- Accepted that a Power greater than ourselves could bring back our mental health.
- Members frequently motivate themselves to the brink by trying to reform or control their loved one.
- They understand to accept that they can revert to sanity, after acknowledging they are powerless.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.
- Learning to let go is a primary step in the program and acceptance.
- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
- Self-discovery plays a huge role in making the steps; and this is its beginning.
- A list of how they may have offended themselves or their loved ones (such as with threats) is made by attendees.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
- Thats a study of each listing in the group members moral inventory, which enables them to delve into each problem.
- Got fully ready to have God eliminate all the flaws of character.
- This is a very important step, as it is the complete acceptance of the process of recovery supported by a Higher Power.
- calmly begged Him to remove our drawbacks.
- When they reach This point, the member can realize the part they played by judging and trying to control their loved ones which could have driven them into more drinking.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
- Usually, making up for the wrongs done begins with oneself.
- Sometimes it not always your fault a person is addicted.
- They must agree to pardon themselves and make amends.
- Made amends to such people directly where feasible, except for the cases when doing so is likely to hurt them or others.
- The next step is to take action, after you agree to make changes.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
- To complete 12 Steps takes time.
- Even if the members have already completed their inventory, missteps are normal.
- Step Ten acknowledges that this is a permanent process.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
- This is taking personal spiritual responsibility and surrender so as to start healing.
- Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
- The last step is a realization that the members journey has not finished.
- Encouragement is provided to members to support other members with their education.
Learning About The Higher Power
Members do have an acceptance of a higher power, even though Al-Anon is not a religious program. Nevertheless, the term " higher power" is open to imply as one's own individual beliefs. Members of all religions and beliefs are accepted at Al-Anon and none is coerced to change their beliefs.